Religious people can’t abuse others… right?

The following was mentioned in a conversation on WhatsApp and needed some clarification. A representive of Inspirited Minds who is also a Student of Knowledge answered the point below. This article is no way accusing religious people of any faith of being abusers, rather a clarification on the misconception on hand.

‘people who have mental health issues have been abused previously…’

Abuse such as domestic violence, childhood trauma and psychological abuse can lead to a person having negative mental health disorders such as depression, eating disorders, suicidal ideas, self harm, anxiety and all sorts, but it’s not the only contributor.

I know some women who have had a horrific ordeal, but because of the support they have received, they have had no mental health problems. On the other hand, there are some people I know that have had no problems in their life, have got good family and social relations, and even have a good connection with Allah, yet do experience mental health problems, in this case, it is not due to previous experience such as abuse (what the causes are in this situation is many, i.e. test from Allah, biological deficits or stress).

So in short, abuse can lead to mental health disorders, but it’s not the only leading cause and it doesn’t always lead to mental health problems.

Regarding abuse being perpetrated by someone who is not on the Deen is not always the case either. Although in heart and intention they may not be in the Deen because someone who can exert abuse on another human clearly hasn’t got the message that Islam conveys and doesn’t act according to the Quran and Sunnah, nonetheless, they may “look” practicing, yet commit such acts.

It’s a huge sin yes, but it’s the same concept. A brother who has a beard may seem practicing on the Deen – but may abuse his wife. A woman who wears Niqaab may seem on the Deen – but may beat her kids to a pulp. Even so, people who are actually on the Deen but still act this way – they are truly not on the Deen essentially. So it really depends on what they mean by “on the Deen” – because there is no “on the Deen” when it comes to abuse.

‘abuse is perpetrated by people who don’t have a Halal income…’

The second part is VERY vague and VERY broad and could be applied to almost anything, although I agree with the concept they are trying to put across – you could say the same thing about tax for the worker, or mortgages or student finance/loan for uni fees. A medical student who took out a student loan will have contributed to Riba – therefore is there education and career Haraam, thus they are evil and their children will also be evil? It can’t be put as simple like that. I don’t agree with student finance anyway, but it’s an example.

I don’t support claiming benefits whilst lying about employment either, because firstly lying is wrong anyway, so if the situation is as what they say it is – could the Haraam be due to the lying or due to the fact they are claiming benefits from a government that is run on a false way of ruling? Yes, Barakah may be lost in a family and their upbringing when lying is involved or even a Haraam source like they have suggested i.e. selling alcohol, working in an environment that involves physical contact between sexes – but that cannot be the only cause for their destruction and corruption.

Regardless of income, it is the parents that are responsible of how their children are brought up – if they are not taught that rape, and zina is wrong, of course they will go ahead and commit it regardless of their family income. Even if someone had their own business, and everything was Halal, but their child saw them hitting their wife, would they grow up thinking it was wrong? Or if they saw their mother not cleaning the house, or feeding their father, wouldn’t they grow up thinking that this is the norm? Yes they are interlinked as actions to impact deeds and behaviour, but it is not the only cause.

It would be inaccurate to say that a Haraam income causes a child to become a rapist. It’s simply illogical. In short, it’s like saying someone who has a Halal income, their child will grow up to be a scholar – there is no fixed correlation. It is a matter of guidance from parents, individual traits that were given from Allah and the impact of society/peers. If a child grows up with bad friends, they are most likely to be on the Deen of their friends – regardless of home life, which is why the Prophet (Saws) emphasised good company. In short, yes they are interlinked and it may be a contributing factor – but it most certainly is not the only and one reason why someone may grow up to be a rapist.

If I have made any mistakes then forgive me, anything good that has come out of this is from Allah and anything bad is from myself and shaytaan.

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Inspirited Minds was founded in 2013; and is a UK based, registered charity. We aim to aid people who suffer from psychological illnesses via supporting them in a professional and confidential manner. Although Inspirited Minds work predominantly with people from an Islamic faith, this is not exclusive. We do not disregard any persons of differing backgrounds.

Inspirited Minds initiated due to the findings that there was limited help available for Muslim sufferers, specifically. From our research, we found that many people found it difficult to seek help as they felt they will not be understood by someone who doesn’t understand their faith or culture. Thus people chose to remain quiet. We are here to change this and cater for this need.

http://inspiritedminds.org.uk/